i like to dream about the what ifs of church culture, because it’s something that’s so vibrant and volatile and always moving forward. isn’t that the story of creation, god slowly restoring us back into his vision of what beauty means? sure we have a long way to go, but we’re coming along slowly. all the lint that used to be toed under the table is being brought out to talk about. we’re beginning to acknowledge the stains of history and how we need to come forward to meet the world in humility because of that. jon foreman wrote an article awhile back for relevant magazine about how the church needs to be more like the bar.. a place of voluntary confession, of honesty, and of spilling out problems. of acknowledging our brokenness instead of hiding it. and even if we don’t find all the answers, to be able to uplift, encourage, share and buoy each other through it all.
that’s a beautiful vision. and the best part is, it’s possible. i’ve seen it happening.
when i grew up in church things were nice and neat. bible stories smoothed over the parts of god that could scare us. we dressed up and looked pretty and sometimes got to sit in pews with the grownups. and then as i grew up i started to feel uncomfortable with the demons in my chest: insecurity, lust, depression, isolation, loneliness. and there was nowhere to put them. church became a place to hide who i was. until occasionally, someone who could read me well, or someone led by the spirit would look through me and see the hurt. most of the time though, i became a virtuoso at the art of lying without words. i look around now and see changes. even the fact that things are being talked about, slowly, encourages me. there’s dimension in dialogue. we might feel lost in ourselves, but when we’re together we have grounding.
i know, wholeheartedly, that there’s a painful gap between what our world could be, and what it is. anyone with a relative with cancer, a grandparent with alzheimer’s, or even access to the internet headlines could tell you that. anyone who has smelled death or looked it in the eye, or examined the ramifications of our tangled global economy, or catapulted their hearts to other countries stunted by poverty. but i also know there’s a lot of goodness hiding in here. the poetry of the gospel gets me every time, even when i don’t want it to. despite weakness and heartache and loss, it’s possible to celebrate. because what’s dead can live. what’s torn can be healed. the turbulent earth, the fumbling church, even these can be redeemed. and we are part of this vision of emerging beauty. we are part of this vision of ultimate love.
i don’t want my kids to grow up feeling constricted by expectation and suffocated by shame. i want them to take part in the fiesta. i want them to come out of church filled with joy. i want them to dream about what’s possible. i want them to dance. it’s a festival with lanterns and ribbons, stuffed with grace and arms wide enough for all. it’s a party. jesus turned water into wine, after all.